I transform negative experiences into positive ones.

Written on 05/12/2020
Jamie Gilliam

I’m not rich.

I didn’t win the genetic lottery.

And I lost most of my life to feeling inadequate, unloved and never enough. 

So why the hell am I so happy?

Simple. Because I focus on growth and progress.

Every situation is an opportunity to grow, especially negative ones.

When a negative thought pops into my head, I use it as a cue to replace it with a positive one.

When I’m around negative people, and I cannot remove myself from the situation, I use it as a chance to practice tolerance and compassion.

If a negative situation arises that I cannot change, I use it as an opportunity to practice acceptance.

I used to hate waiting in lines, but I don’t wait anymore. I focus on being quiet with myself and learning to "just be" while standing in line, and often look forward to it.

You really can do this with anything…

If someone lets you down, it’s an opportunity to practice forgiveness.

If you fail at something you care about, it’s a chance to learn a valuable lesson.

If you’re delayed for an important meeting, it’s an opportunity to practice patience.

If your dog ‘really’ eats your assignment, it’s a chance to start with a clean slate… and do it better.

If you receive negative feedback, it’s an opportunity to learn.

If you’re feeling stuck on a project, it’s a chance to think creatively.

Focus on progress, and you can turn any negative into a positive. And if you do this consistently, you’ll be unstoppable. 

Write in your journal about a negative experience you've had or something you reguarly have to do that is considered negative.  Then write about how you can turn it into a positive experience or learn from it to impact your life in a positive way. Then write every or any negative thought you've had this past week, and write a positive thought to counteract it beside it.